Thursday, November 17, 2011

Recommended Adoption Book

Thad and I have 30-45 minute commute to and from work everyday.  It makes me very thankful that 1. he's able to chauffeur me and 2. that if we have to have a commute, at least it's together.  We can get all of our so-how-was-your-day-dears out of the way on the commute, and not bring work into our home at all.  Most of the time, anyway.

We recently got a bunch of books on adoption, thinking that we could read them and then pass the good ones on to our parents.  I've been reading Secret Thoughts of an Adoptive Mother to Thad on our commute, and it's been a really eerie experience.  There are quite a few sections that I really feel like I could have written.  She even considered the name Mira if she adopted a girl.  (We thought this would be a great name for us to choose if we adopt a girl, especially since our last name is Cole.  Get it?  Mira Cole?  We have a whole list of names like that, but I'll save that for another post.)

The author talks about how much she had to mourn not being able to carry her child.  I don't relate to her on this one--since I was adopted, it's always been as natural if not more natural to me than the idea having biological children.  I don't mean to say that I can't sympathize with her, but I definitely don't empathize.  I'm going to loan this book to a friend and her husband, who recently received a negative fertility diagnosis.  She's asked me a lot of the questions that are in the book, and I don't feel qualified to answer them.

Anyway, this book has opened up quite a few topics of conversation for Thad and I, which is so important.  We're only about halfway through it, but I highly recommend it for couples pursuing adoption.